Let them hate

Amidst all our near and dear ones, we often find people ‘loving’ a person because they find him/her to be docile, one who can be ‘tamed’ easily and usually doesn’t shout out to proclaim his/her existence. The person usually does not force his/her opinion on others and agrees to people’s opinion easily. These people are very ‘sweet’; you may even get diabetes I tell you.



However, one fine day that person feels very insecure or gathers little confidence to face the world and thinks that why not try to put forward his/her opinions. The person tries to live life on own terms, thinking and doing things that will make him/her happy and contended. The person feels very confident that since people love him/her so much, opinions will be accepted by the ‘dear ones’ easily but suddenly something happens that he/she never expected. People suddenly start saying that they do not connect with the person anymore. Whenever they put up their views either they try to shun the person or just try to weaken and confuse by saying “You have changed a lot!” That’s when you and I halt for sometime and try to ponder that are we really becoming devilish and losing out on people.

Then he/she realises that the change your kith and kin are talking about is just that now you know how to talk and make your point heard, now you know how to keep yourself happy, now you know what is wrong and right and have confidence enough to choose and over everything else now you know who all people are good for you and who all are not, you wont mind or feel insecure if you are no more into some special coterie where you had always been the laughing stock but still behaved as if you do not mind because you felt your status comes from the group you are with. Its better to stop hating oneself for what one is not and instead start loving for what one is. 


Living life on our own terms is not as easy as it seems especially for people who are not born with that extra sharp tongue and demon like mind. There are always people who love to dominate and some who have no other choice but to be dominated. Whenever we try to put our foot down and say “Thats it!’, people will try to put you a few steps backward by eating away your confidence with emotional blackmails but what matters is self esteem and the very few wonderful people who feel happy about the fact that you ‘changed’ because for others you matter till you are'useful'.


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